Wednesday, December 18, 2019
What to Do When Youre Jealous of Someones Job
What to Do When Youre Jealous of Someones JobWhat to Do When Youre Jealous of Someones JobNo matter how frequently or infrequently you find yourself feeling jealous of someone else, it always feels awful. Whether youre struggling to keep up or simply maintaining status quo, feeling like someone else is experiencing success after success whether earned or not can be aggravating, and soon enough you start to question your career, your degree and even your coffee order. This phenomenon has a name, and its The Grass is Always Greener Syndrome. Its the sense that no matter what youre doing, its not quite enough, and if only you had so-and-sos title or whats-her-faces salary things would be better.Unfortunately, jealousy in your career ruins mora than just your day. If indulged too often, it can lead you to make decisions based on someone elses judgement rather than your ownor even close you off to relationshipsthat might be mutually beneficial.Whether youre fighting a jealous moment for the first time or you find yourself constantly beset with everyone elses green grass, heres what to do when you dont want to be jealous anymorePractice gratitude Humans are wired to be the negative as a survival mechanism. If you dont actively look for the positives in your life, you can quickly lose track of all you do have. And if you focus exclusively on everything that you want then you eventually cultivate an attitude of entitlement without considering whats already working in your favor. Gratitude, on the other hand, can help you binnensee whats workingand balance it against what appears to not be working. Start a gratitude habitthat forces you to consider what you have going for you in every phase of your career, such as keeping a small gratitude journal at your desk or recording what youre grateful for on your calendar every day. Determine whether or not its a real desire Sometimes were jealous because we see something we are truly lacking in our lives, and that means its t ime for a change. Sometimes, however, were jealous because we simply arent tending our own garden. Take a closer look at whats causing you to think the grass is greener somewhere else. Would you truly be happier with different responsibilities or in a different job? Or are you jealous of the persons perceived happiness, not their position? If its the former, you know its time to make a change. If its the latter, youll want to focus on your emotional intelligence and whats going on in your personal life that might encourage these feelings.Make a plan to change or let it goIve fallen prey to this error in judgement too many times to count Ill let something I want fester in my dreams, but I dont actually make any plans to achieve it. Its like getting a flash of jealousy every time someone writes and posts a new article in your LinkedIn feed (who are they to share their opinion, right?) but then not unfollowing them or making a plan to post your own article. Either youre willing to com mit to the change that the jealousy brings, or you must let yourself let it go. You cant want to earn your PMPin project management but never take the course. You cant crave a college degree and never make a plan to save money or carve out the time for it. You must use your jealousy as a catalyst for making your own grass greener or as an opportunity to let go. Use tools as a part of your planIf youve decided that your jealousy means its time for change, keep in mind that making a plan doesnt have to call for a huge life renovation. Making progress can be as simple as schauplatz up an alert for new positions on Simply Hiredso that youre notified when the opportunity comes up instead of having to seek it out yourself. Look into tools that can help you automate and track the changes you want to implement. Dont settle for watching others tend to their career garden. Make the grass on your side greener by practicing these tips and making small changes to help you achieve your goals.
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